By definition, I am an extrovert. I thrive off the energy of other people. Even when I’m dead tired, if I’m around other people, I instantaneously perk up. A city filled with people works wonders for me.
Not all people are like me, I recognize that. I respect that, too. Not all people recharge when they are around other people, and not all people get adrenaline rushes from receiving attention.
However, the world (at least my little world) revolves around traits that are usually more natural to extroverts. The ability to start and carry conversations, even with strangers, can land you job opportunities, and make good first impressions. Handling large amounts of attention, such as public speaking, is also seen as a helpful skill to have. And people who don’t have those traits naturally? They have to work twice as hard to level the playing field with extroverts.
I’m not saying that life is easier in every aspect for extroverts. Trust me, I’ve been in plenty of situations where I wish that my outgoing personality could reign itself in a little. Being exceedingly enthusiastic can seem like a little too much for some people. I get it.
But here’s the question part. Why on Earth do we, as a society, prefer people who are outgoing and social? I mean, I’m just as bad as the next person. I tend to like to spend time with people who are dramatic and outgoing (not all the time though, because that is very tiring) because I can find myself matching their energy. When I’m around people who are quieter or calmer than me, I find my loud and high-pace energy to feel out of place.
Introverts, help me out here. I can only answer this question from the limited experience I have. In the moments when I have spent so much time with other human and I need space to reflect and recharge, I just want people to understand that I’m tired, not antisocial. I appreciate other people, I just need a minute for myself. So, in conclusion, meet introvert-ism with understanding and space. But that’s just an extrovert speaking…