I like being straightforward with people, I don’t like being caught up in a tangled web of lies and I try my hardest to be authentic. I also like having friends, don’t like getting in trouble, and well, let’s be honest, if I was truthful all the time, people would hate me and I’d say a lot of things that are probably better kept to myself.
Why do we care that people are so honest? Well, I suppose we crave a legitimate connection with people, and that means we feel the need to know the real person. When people lie to us, we feel betrayed, or manipulated. However, I don’t think I’ve met a person who is 100% honest, and even if I did, I don’t think I’d like them very much. Because when people hold their tongues from telling the truth, it’s either to save their reputation or to save someone else for getting hurt. I know I’ve been in plenty of situations that if I really said what was on my mind, I would have hurt someone I care deeply about. I also think there is a common conception that if you lie, something bad will happen to you. But I think it can be argued that telling the truth can also lead to bad things.
In general, people think honesty is good and dishonesty is bad and that is that. Well, I’d like to challenge that. I think honesty and dishonesty can both be good and both be bad, depending on situation. I think they both can be helpful in building relationships, and both can be extremely harmful. The trick is learning when to be honest and when to save the real opinions for yourself.